There is no need for any muse on who is the greater enigma – Marlon Brando’s character Don Vito Corleone in The Godfather or Don Quixote, the adventurer fighting imaginary enemies and wars. Both ‘Don’s personify the answers to three questions some pushy family elders like to deliberate on.
1) After a pleasant dinner gathering the guests express their appreciation and say “Thank-you”. My response is “Only if you insist!” So they ponder aloud “Why this guy never says thanks”.
2) New technology has enabled the use of applications on mobile devices in many practical instances. We can block in-coming messages and calls . . . by which I apply it to a favorite nephew. But most discerning users do so only for unknown persons and to distance themselves from crude callers. Why block a favorite someone?
3) Central banks are lenders of last resort. In family circles any member in need of support and has no other place to turn to has a welcome mat at my home yet there are no takers. Why?
Is it unusual to see distinctive nonchalance on the part of a first time youngster taking a plane trip? Nonchalance is not indifference. Cherished gestures and even more extensive charity are made as second nature nuances; such is the thrust of scriptures relative to those noble virtues. Only for the good countenance of your maker; without any inkling for recognition or wanting something in return or thanks. Charity ought to be made with unwavering nonchalance.
Why then say thanks and shortchange the merits of charity and sincere hospitality?
In reaching out for the abundant life granted by providence, tranquility is not always so easily realized. We sometimes need to work at it. We can have exceptional wishes from a special someone and get disappointed for no good reason. Not having any occasional phone calls from a favorite nephew does not displace the ardent bonding when we meet up. That’s why I block his phone contact number. Surely then there will be no calls from him and thus no iota of disappointment to prompt a restive state.
There is no deluge of hanger-on or free loading kin folks in my home. Even outstation extended family members do not normally make overnight visits. But in acute circumstances this abode is the refuge center – quite in the mode of a banker of last resort.Once we helped out to raise a niece from two years old to nearly five years of age, and there was the instance when a wayward nephew stayed with us until he found his bearings.
That a righteous commoner is not recognized is best exemplified by the scriptural narration of Moses seeking to acquire wisdom from a wandering spirit. Most opt not to be indebted to a beholder of a different creed. Still, even in the workplace one has to endeavor to live life to one’s innate prowess and talent, not holding back contribution for want of recognition or right recompense. Nonetheless any intent or act to contribute must be tempered with common sense threshold for it is said we ought not to serve the cause to the extent of becoming impoverish. A good perimeter rule is charity must begin at home, caring for the immediate family especially the once ever-giving parents, seeing to the proper children’s upbringing, their security, comfort and to imbibe in them a lust for the giving attributes.
All of life’s three contemplations here have one underlining tenet for reaching out to the abundant life. Giving is a joy to be acquired and occasionally we always accept from others their kind generosity because we do not want to deprive them of the money cannot buy repose.